Practices

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Physically taking a refusing child should be rare, and only with a young child, two adults at home, two staff waiting at school, and a plan for keeping everybody safe.

It goes wrong easily. Someone gets hurt, a younger sibling watches it happen, and a child learns that the adults will use force, which is not a…

LongerThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 2:45One line of research

A bridge year can be a deferred place, a course at the local college, a job, or a stretch of genuinely doing very little. That last one is a real option and not a refusal to choose.

For someone who has just come apart, a fresh demand can restart the same collapse, so a few months with nothing scheduled is sometimes the…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:280One line of research

If most of the difficulty is happening at home, most of the work needs to happen with the household in the room. Otherwise the hour of good conversation gets quietly undone by Tuesday.

In a settled stretch, seeing the young person on their own with occasional family time is fine. In a crisis, turn it round: everyone together,…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 42:38One line of research

Sorting goes better fast than carefully. If every item stalls you, ask someone to sit in the room while you work, not to help but to keep the pace up.

A person nearby changes what the hour feels like, and they can be reading their own book the whole time. What they supply is momentum, which is…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 18:95One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

There is a particular relief in hearing a room of strangers admit the same frightened thing you have never said aloud. It is why groups reach people that advice does not.

You go in expecting contempt. What comes back is usually recognition, along with a few nods from people who have been ruder to their families than…

LongerGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 49:13One line of research

Sitting in a room with other people who lose their keys, cry at nothing and hate themselves for both does something no explanation can. You find out you were never the only one.

Groups also do encouragement better than a therapist can. When someone with the same trouble asks whether you managed the homework, it does not land…

LongerFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 9:40One line of research

Ask a struggling ten year old what division actually is and you will often get a blank, or a method with no meaning under it. Going back to what each operation does is usually worth more than another go at this term's work.

Division is sharing out, or taking the same amount away again and again until nothing is left. Multiplication is that same amount repeated. Children…

LongerReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 18:69One line of research

If the first medicine disappoints, that is information about the first medicine. Plenty of people who get nothing from one class do well on another.

Methylphenidate and amphetamine are not the same drug at different strengths. They work by partly different routes, so a poor result on one says…

LongerMedication and how it worksMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5One line of research

Try one hour with the phone away and out of reach, then talk about what came up. The hour itself is the information.

What surfaces is usually specific and useful. The twenty minute mark where the hand starts moving. The exact worry about what is being missed. The…

LongerScreens and attentionCBTQur’an 62:9One line of research

With someone deep in shame, your steady presence is not the warm up before the useful part. It is the useful part.

That means resisting the urge to fix, to explain the psychology of it, or to hurry them along to a better feeling. Sit at their pace. Keep your tone…

LongerShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 93:6One line of research

People who are sleeping properly, eating properly and moving a bit tend to want each other more. The unglamorous parts of life management run closer to the bedroom than either of you might expect.

It is worth saying out loud when desire has quietly gone from a marriage, because the usual explanations reach for something heavier: he has lost…

LongerTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185One line of research