Practices

Two stretches of childhood carry most of this: the first years of school, and the middle years around the move to secondary. Knowing that lets you prepare instead of react.

The early wobble is usually about being apart from home for a long day for the first time. The later one lands when peer opinion becomes the loudest…

Every adjustment should arrive with the date you will start reducing it. Written down at the beginning, while everyone is still reasonable.

Supports meant as a bridge have a way of becoming the new normal, and by the spring nobody remembers they were temporary. Decide at the outset what…

Home DNA tests turn up relatives nobody expected. If someone is thinking of taking one to fill in a blank family history, it is worth saying out loud that it may hand them more than they asked for.

People find half siblings. Sometimes they find that the story they were told about their birth was not the story. That is a great deal to receive by…

When you are weighing up whether a teenager is ready for something, it helps to think in two thirds. A fifteen year old may be handling responsibility more like a twelve or thirteen year old.

This is not an insult and it should never be delivered as one. It is a way of explaining why a privilege arrives later here than for their friends,…