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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Do one small, slightly ridiculous thing together.
A shared bit of play refreshes a couple more than another serious conversation can.
When someone comes at you angry, listen for the fear in it. It changes what you say next, and it changes what their anger does to you.
A raised voice usually produces apprehension, and apprehension makes people stiffen or back away. Hearing frightened rather than hostile leaves you…
Ask plainly: name the facts, say how you feel, say what you want, in a few clear sentences.
Drop the hinting. State the situation, your feeling, and the request. Clear is kind.
When a young person will not go in, social fear is the most common thing underneath. Start there, before anyone reaches for words like lazy or defiant.
Ask about the parts of the day with other people in them: the corridor between lessons, the dining hall, being called on, changing for sport, walking…
Listen for the moment a young person starts explaining why home is better. A preference with reasons attached is much harder to shift than plain distress.
Distress you can soothe, and then move through together. A worked out case, less demanding work, nobody staring, no awkwardness at lunch, is…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.