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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
At the end of a stretch of thinking like this, ask yourself plainly what you believe about yourself now, and how that differs from an hour ago.
Shifts that go unnamed tend to have evaporated by the evening. Saying the new version aloud, or writing a single sentence of it, turns it into…
Name one hard thing today and ask what it might be growing in you: patience, humility, nearness to God.
Not denying the difficulty. Finding the meaning inside it that makes it bearable.
When a thought lands hard, ask whether you know it for certain, and what you would actually put forward if you had to make the case. Then go looking for the bits that point the other way.
Do this once you have settled a little, not in the worst of it, or the questions become another way of arguing with yourself. Write the answers down…
Notice the standard you are holding yourself to, then ask whether you would hold anybody else to it. If what you blame yourself for happened when you were a child, ask honestly whether a child could have carried that.
Shame usually rests on a rule that was never said out loud, something along the lines of I should have known, or I should have stopped it. Written…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Picture somebody you love saying this exact thought about themselves. What would you say back, and why is none of that available to you?
Most of us are far kinder outward than inward, and the kind version is usually the more accurate one as well as the warmer one. Say your answer to…