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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Ask yourself two questions: how did I actually do, and what do I think I could have done. The gap between those two answers is real, and it is usually where the grief sits.
Most people can name that gap within seconds, which tells you they have been carrying it a long time without saying it. Writing both answers down…
Retirement takes away the timetable, the colleagues and often the person who kept the diary, and for someone with ADHD that can be the point where everything unravels.
It often gets read as depression or as an early sign of memory trouble, when what has actually happened is that a lifetime of borrowed structure…
The first year away at university takes away nearly every bit of structure at once and asks a young person to build their own. It is one of the commonest points at which ADHD finally shows itself.
Nobody wakes you, nobody notices you missed a lecture, and the work has no shape until the week it is due. The things that help are dull and…
Anger and grief often arrive with a late diagnosis, especially once treatment starts working and you see what you could have been doing all along. That reaction is not ingratitude. It needs room.
The grief is for a life that did not happen: the course you left, the marriage that wore out, the years of being told you were not trying. Left…
There is more about focus, starting, and adhd than the practices: the focus, starting, and adhd area has the themes and the courses too.