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A behaviour agreement needs six things in it: the goal, exactly what the child does, what they earn, what happens if they do not, signatures from everyone, and an adult who sticks to it.

Most of these fall apart over what was meant rather than over what was done, so write the specifics down to the level of what counts as finished. The…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:282One line of research

Guard sleep first, especially through any long stretch away from the usual routine. Once the nights slide, everything else you have set up starts giving way.

Holidays, illness and school closures are when bedtimes drift, and a fortnight of late nights undoes more than any homework plan can fix. Keep the…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:47One line of research

Put the schoolwork early in the day and let the screens come after it. For a teenager early means later than you would like, but the order stays the same.

Effort is a thing that runs down through a day, so the demanding job goes where there is most of it left. Teenagers really do wake up later, and…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:47One line of research

Work the deal out with the child instead of handing it to them. Much the same rules, an entirely different feeling.

Let them argue for a bit longer on the console, or for Friday off, and give ground where you honestly can. The terms tend to land in roughly the same…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 42:38One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Some of what feels like a flaw in your character is really a job that can be handed to something outside your head: a calendar, a list on the wall, a person who helps you lay out the week.

Coaching for attention difficulties is mostly this, and nothing more mysterious. Someone sits with you, builds the week, works out what comes first,…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 42:38One line of research

Medication can make the learning possible. It does not do the learning. If no tools get built while things are steadier, there is nothing standing there when the dose wears off.

A common disappointment runs like this: the medication helps, then it seems not to be enough, then it gets stopped. Often what happened is that…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:48One line of research

Often the most useful thing a clinician does is not delivered by the clinician. It is delivered by the teacher, or the parent, after a conversation you had with them.

Taking that seriously changes how the hour gets spent, towards talking with the school, coaching the parents and designing the arrangement, and away…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 28:26One line of research

The classroom is the strongest place to help and most clinicians cannot get into one. That is a reason to work well in the next best place, not a reason to give up.

ADHD sits in how a brain is built, and the work is on the executive skills themselves rather than on attitude or effort. Where the moment of…

LongerSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:283One line of research

A small child does not have a feeling, they are the feeling, entirely, until it passes. Growing up is largely a gap opening between feeling something and doing something about it.

If that gap is narrower for you than for other people your age, it is a lag on a road everyone is on rather than a defect. The framing is worth…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 8:11One line of research

Turning the volume down on a feeling in front of the wrong audience is not being fake. Being annoyed with your manager and raising it mildly is a skill, and it keeps you employed.

There is a version of honesty that costs people jobs and friendships. What you feel and how much of it you show are two separate decisions, and the…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 3:134One line of research

A strong feeling makes the rest of your life go quiet for a while. That is when people resign, send the message, or start something they cannot undo, for reasons that seem good and are not enough.

So make a rule now, while it is calm, about which decisions are never made on the day: leaving a job, ending a relationship, spending a large amount,…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 23:97One line of research

The big promise is usually made in a rush of love rather than after a calculation. It is meant sincerely, which is exactly why it keeps happening, and why the disappointment keeps landing.

The gap here is between feeling something and announcing it. Try a rule: nothing involving money, dates or other people gets said out loud on the day…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 91:8One line of research

A small annoyance can be steered. A full blaze cannot. Nearly all of the winnable work happens in the first thirty seconds, before the feeling has finished arriving.

Which means the skill to practise is noticing, not calming down. Learn your own early signs: the jaw, the hot face, talking faster, the flat voice,…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 50:16One line of research

Halfway up the argument, ask yourself one question. What do I want here, and who am I trying to be. Winning the sentence is rarely worth what it costs by bedtime.

It is a simple move and it is genuinely hard, because the moment is loud and the long view is quiet. A short version helps. Not in front of the…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 41:34One line of research

Being far apart is not the same as being out of touch. What usually stops contact is the question of who starts it, not the miles.

Distance turns into disconnection when both people wait for the other one. It helps to fix a when rather than promising to speak soon. The same…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 50:16One line of research

Moods travel. Laughter spreads through a group of friends, and so does contempt, gloom and low grinding cynicism. It is fair to think about which rooms you sit in.

This is not about cutting people off. It is closer to noticing that you leave certain conversations heavier than you arrived, and choosing to make…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 6:68One line of research

Pulling back from things is easier. That is not the same as safer. The cost of a smaller life arrives later and quietly, which is exactly why it goes unnoticed.

It helps to be honest about the trade. Saying no to the party buys you a calm evening and charges you a slightly smaller world. Once or twice that is…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 7:200One line of research

Fast, strong emotion is part of ADHD rather than a separate fault of character. It was in the original description, dropped for decades, and is being written back in.

This matters practically. Adults who react hard and settle quickly are often given a mood or personality diagnosis instead, and the plan that follows…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 50:16One line of research

Often the feeling fits the situation perfectly and the size of it does not. You were right to be annoyed. The ten out of ten is the part that caused the trouble.

This is a useful thing to say to yourself afterwards, because it stops you throwing out your own read of what happened. Your sense that it was unfair…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 17:83One line of research

The intensity that makes you exhausting on a bad day is the same intensity that makes you good company. Enthusiasm and impulsiveness run off one engine.

Worth saying, because a conversation about emotional control can easily become a list of everything wrong with you. The aim is not a flatter version…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 91:8One line of research