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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
When you feel flooded today, name it and take a real break before you say a word.
Racing heart, tight chest, that is the signal. Step away, breathe, come back when steady.
If you take a break from a fight, name when you will come back, and come back.
Give me twenty minutes, I am not leaving this. Then return, calmer, as promised.
For a compromise, name your one true core need, then be genuinely flexible on everything around it.
Separate the small inflexible core from the wide flexible area. Guard the core, give on the rest.
On a break, do not rehearse how wronged you are. Let the grievance go and let your body settle.
Thoughts like I do not have to take this keep you flooded. Turn to something calming instead.
On a stuck, recurring fight, stop trying to persuade. First explore the dream or value behind each position.
Gridlock rarely yields to argument. Set persuasion aside and get curious about what the issue means to each of you.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.