Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

What matches

99 practices

Narrow these down

Brain imaging does show that practice changes something. Be careful with anyone who tells you a great deal more than that.

It genuinely helps to know that sitting and breathing is not nothing, particularly if you have been told your whole life to just try harder. It also…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 2:255Long taught, never tested

Five minutes chosen for the state you are actually in beats twenty minutes of open sitting. Pick the one labelled stressed, or cannot sleep, or about to walk into work.

Two things end a practice early: it was longer than the attention you had that day, and you had to decide what to do before you could start. Short…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 33:41Long taught, never tested

If you have spent thirty years being told you are careless, lazy or too much, no attention technique will touch that. Kindness practice, aimed at yourself, is the part that does.

It usually feels absurd at first, and slightly embarrassing, which is worth expecting rather than reading as a sign that it is not for you. Start…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 9:118Long taught, never tested

In muscle relaxation you are usually told to let go slowly. If slow leaves you fidgeting, let go all at once. The version you will keep doing is the better version.

The standard sequence is to tense a muscle group, hold it, then release gradually, and for some people that long release is unbearable to sit…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 3:191Long taught, never tested

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Sit still, choose a position, and hold it. Within seconds your body will be asking to move the chin or scratch the neck, and each of those small urges is a free repetition of letting an impulse pass.

You do not need anyone to provoke you for this. Notice the urge, breathe once, let it sit there without obeying it, and carry on. Two or three…

Five minutesMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 2:45One line of research

A cold shower hands you a clean, timed urge to work with. You plan a minute, and four seconds in every part of you wants out: notice it, breathe, let the wave pass, then notice it come back.

The useful discovery is not toughness. It is that urges arrive in waves rather than climbing forever, so waiting one out turns out to be a real…

Five minutesMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 19:65One line of research

This goes the way learning a bicycle went. You could not, then you could but only with all of your attention, then one day you rode without thinking about it. The middle bit is the ugly bit.

In that middle phase the skill works but it costs you everything to use, and it looks clumsy from the outside. That is where most people decide it is…

Five minutesMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 84:19One line of research

Meditation does more as upkeep than as a fire extinguisher. Doing it on the calm days is what lowers the level your threat system sits at.

If you only reach for it when you are already furious, it will seem useless and you will drop it, which is what usually happens. Practise it when…

Five minutesMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 3:200One line of research

Notice how much of the tightness in you is the verdict you are passing. As the judging comes down, the body tends to come down with it.

This is something you can test rather than something to believe. Catch yourself narrating: he always does this, she has no respect, typical. Then…

Five minutesMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 16:127One line of research

When you offer a practice to someone, use their words for it rather than yours. Keep the fuller version ready for the day they ask where it comes from.

A plain, unmystical version suits most people and costs them nothing to accept. Anyone who gets curious can have all of it, and they will take more…

Five minutesMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 5:48One line of research

Learn a new practice in that order: the picture of what it is, then the plain steps, then actually doing it. Knowing what is coming settles most of the resistance before it starts.

Say to yourself, or to the person you are teaching, that in a minute the talking stops and the doing begins. It sounds trivial and it removes the low…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 16:98One line of research

Think of your mind as a river and yourself as someone sitting on the bank. Thoughts, feelings, aches, pictures and urges all go past in the current, and you are the one on the grass watching them go.

The point of the image is that it gives you somewhere to sit. Being told to observe your thoughts is abstract, while a bank and a river gives your…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 114:4One line of research

You can sit on a bench a few feet from a waterfall and be perfectly safe. Step in and you go over. Feeling something powerful is not the danger, and getting swept into it is.

This is why the aim is never to keep away from what upsets you. You can be right up close to a feeling, hearing it roar, and still be the one on the…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 79:40One line of research

Look inside. The moment you catch something going past, put a small dot on the paper and go back to looking. That is the whole exercise, over and over.

The dot is doing something specific: it turns a private, slippery moment of noticing into an act you can see and count. No words, no keeping score,…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 7:200One line of research

Do not write down what the thought was. No words, no summaries, just the mark. This is not journaling and nobody is going to ask you what came up.

The moment you start describing a thought you are back in the water with it, sorting and explaining and defending. What you are training is the…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 7:199One line of research

Afterwards, ask what that was like rather than whether it worked. Every answer is usable, including the ones that sound like complaints.

People come back with all sorts: restful, stressful because my head is so fast, mostly sounds and aches rather than thoughts, strangely reassuring.…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 13:11One line of research

If you finish and say you managed to calm your mind down first, something has quietly slipped. You are not cleaning the water or blocking the flow, you are only sitting beside it.

This matters because a practice built on making yourself calm works fine on an easy evening and collapses on the night you need it. Let the river be…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 7:154One line of research

Trying to control what cannot be controlled is what makes a person feel out of control. Let the uncontrollable part be, and a surprising amount of control comes back.

Balance something on your fingertip and you will feel it: the harder you chase it, the more it wobbles. Feelings and thoughts behave the same way.…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 23:98One line of research

The river is different every minute. The one sitting on the bank is the same one who sat there ten years ago, and will be there in ten more.

This is the part that offers something to people whose sense of themselves rises and falls with how they were treated that day. If who you are is the…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 114:1One line of research

Once the plain version is familiar, try sorting instead of dotting: T for a thought, F for a feeling, S for a sensation, V for something you see, I for an urge.

Write the key at the top of the page so you are not holding it in your head. The sorting is useful because putting a rough name to something is often…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 17:53One line of research