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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
A new response cannot be laid on top of a cycle that is still turning. Break the circle first, even clumsily, and the room for something else appears.
Interrupting looks small and slightly silly: standing up, walking to another room, going quiet mid sentence, putting the phone face down.…
Before you walk out, say three things: this is getting heated, I need a bit of space, I will be back and we will carry on. The sentence is the skill, not the walking.
An exit with no words is read as punishment, and the other person will usually follow you to finish it, which is how a break turns into the worst…
When someone is telling you something hard, quietly let your body come closer to theirs. Similar posture, similar pace, your voice at their volume rather than your own.
Do it lightly. This is not an impression, and if it looks like one it will land as mockery. A small shift is plenty: leaning in when they lean in,…
Try putting a qualifier on the front of your strongest claims. In some ways this is true. In some ways it is not. In some ways I cannot tell from here.
Jain thinkers built a whole grammar out of that, seven careful ways of stating a thing, precisely so assertion stayed honest. Used well, a qualifier…
There is more about anger than the practices: the anger area has the themes and the courses too.
There is a way of meeting a charge that does not involve charging back. You let it arrive, you move, and the force goes past you.
In practice this looks like standing still, breathing out slowly, and saying very little while the other person spends what they came with. Not…