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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Talk first, move second. Ending a hard conversation with something physical gives the body a route back down.
This works for a therapy group and it works for an evening at home. Say the difficult thing, then walk, stretch, wash up, anything that puts you back…
Some of what you are carrying has not finished happening. Movement that soothes rather than pushes tends to suit that better than anything strenuous.
Advice built around a danger that has passed does not fit a person still meeting it weekly, whether that is racism, an unsafe household or work that…
When obsessions start early and dig in deep, ask gently what anxiety looks like elsewhere in the family. Often there is an undiagnosed parent, and often that parent is helping in ways that keep the whole thing running.
None of this is about blame. A parent who checks the locks for their child, answers the same question fifteen times, or arranges the evening around a…
If the urge to arrange has to go somewhere, point it at something that can actually be finished. A kitchen drawer ends. A desk you keep re-sorting never does.
The ending is the part that matters. Finishing leaves you with something real to have done, which competes with the small relief that compulsive…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Peripheral biofeedback, the sort that tracks skin conductance and heart rate rather than brainwaves, has more behind it than neurofeedback does. You practise letting the body drop into a calmer state while a monitor shows you it happening.
Once that state is familiar, pair it with a distinctive scent used only for this. After enough repetitions the smell starts pulling the state along…