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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Nothing gives you notice. The bad news, the difficult person, the thing you were not ready for: none of it checks your diary first.
A surprising amount of anger is really the protest that this should have come later, or with warning, or to somebody else. Drop the expectation of…
Keep a line ready for the moment somebody tells you something you did not want to hear. Something like: I did not know that, I would have had to learn it sooner or later, and now I do.
Write your own version and learn it by heart, because nobody composes a generous thought while their face is hot. The aim is not to feel gracious. It…
Not every threat needs answering. A knock to your pride is not a danger to your safety, and it does not require a defence.
The test is short enough to run in the moment: if I do nothing here at all, what actually happens to me? Often the honest answer is that somebody…
Someone shouting at you is usually frightened of something, even when they look like the one in charge of the room.
It might be fear of being left, of being made a fool of, of losing something they cannot afford to lose. You will not always find out which, and you…
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Never decide you are safe because the other person is scared. Frightened people are often the ones who go furthest.
Anger as fear is a useful way of understanding somebody and a useless safety assessment. If the voice is rising, if the space between you is closing,…