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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Going deeper into a feeling only helps if it is being put in order at the same time. Depth without order is just flooding.
So as the feeling rises, keep laying it out: this is what happened, this is what my body did, this is what I was afraid it meant. If your chest is…
When you are trying to reach a feeling, stay with the actual sentence that caused it rather than paraphrasing it into something milder.
She said you are too difficult. Said again, gently, it keeps the moment alive in the room instead of turning it into a memory being reported.…
Give the anger a room rather than a target. Music up loud, walk fast, dance badly, shake your arms out until something in you settles.
Some children's grief centres keep a padded room where a child can go in and move however they need to, with nothing to hit and nothing to break.…
Write the exact thing you are furious about on a paper plate, tape it to the wall, and throw wet cotton balls at it. It sounds childish, and it does more than swinging at nothing.
Half the good of it is in the writing. Vague anger has to become a sentence before it can go on the plate, and reading that sentence back usually…
There is more about low mood and hard feelings than the practices: the low mood and hard feelings area has the themes and the courses too.
Telling someone it was not their fault often bounces straight off, and there is a reason for that. Self blame can be the safer of the two stories, and you are asking them to give up shelter.
So do not lead with the correction. Say instead that it makes complete sense they landed there, that a child needs their parents to be good more than…