Practices

Rather than memorising which treatments to avoid, keep a few questions you can put to any of them. New products arrive faster than anyone can keep a list.

Ask how it was tested and by whom, and whether anyone independent of the company has looked at it. Ask what it costs, whether insurance touches it,…

If a treatment comes with a contract, take it to a solicitor before signing. Not because you cannot read it, but because that puts a few days between the pitch and your signature.

Being told not to sign rarely helps, and it asks somebody to admit in the moment that they might act rashly, which almost nobody does in front of a…

Roughly, the order runs like this. Stimulant medication does the most, the non stimulants help but come second, and after that exercise, omega oils, accommodations and therapy are the ones worth your time.

Decent sleep, ordinary good food and keeping screens within reason sit underneath all of it as support rather than treatment, and a sleep study is…

Do not write off simply sitting with someone. When researchers looked into why dummy treatments helped, one of the things they kept finding was half an hour of a person's full attention.

Thirty minutes of someone listening properly to your difficulties is not filler around the real treatment. Across the talking therapies, who the…

Before anything else, the people around the child need to understand what ADHD actually is. Everything else works better once that has happened.

The chain is quite direct. Understanding changes how behaviour gets read, how it is read sets what a parent expects, and expectations shape the tone…

Move the family's picture from a child who will not do as they are asked to a child whose capacity for holding themselves in place is genuinely limited. It is a change of category, not a softening.

The moral version has a quiet arrogance in it, the assumption that the child could manage if only they cared enough, and everyone in the house can…

Changing how the family understands the child comes before the medication, before the charts, before the meeting at school. It is step one, not a friendly introduction to the real work.

Skip it and the behaviour plan still gets written, but it gets delivered with an edge, applied on the good days and abandoned on the bad ones. When…

A ramp does nothing for someone's legs, and it gets them into the building. Timers, visible clocks, a shorter task list and a calendar somebody else keeps do the same job here.

Accommodations are not treatment and they are not pretending to be. What they do is take the parts of the work that live inside a person's head,…

Paediatric and psychiatric bodies have moved towards treating earlier than used to be usual. The reasoning is that the damage builds on itself.

A year of falling behind makes the next year harder, a reputation among classmates is quick to form and slow to shift, and a household that has been…

One social approach does have a real evidence base behind it, and what makes it different is who delivers it. Parents do the coaching, in the middle of actual play with actual friends.

In practice it looks small and ordinary. You set up a play date, you stay within earshot, you give a nudge before things tip over, and afterwards you…

Coaching for adult ADHD comes down mostly to one thing: a standing appointment with somebody who will ask how it went. That sounds thin until you have tried keeping a plan alive entirely on your own.

A coach is not a therapist and does not need to be. They hold the horizon you keep losing and the fortnight that has quietly gone by, and they make…

Mindfulness for adult ADHD is promising and thinly researched at the same time. If it helps you, that is worth having. It is simply not yet in the same bracket as medication or practical therapy.

There are only a handful of studies, mostly small, and few of them set mindfulness against another active treatment rather than against not much.…

A great many people are diagnosed and then left with a starting dose nobody ever revisited, no reading, no group, nothing else at all. If things have stalled, the first thing to check is whether the treatment was ever actually finished.

Optimising is unglamorous and often the quickest thing available. Was the dose ever adjusted upwards, and on what basis. Does the cover reach the…

If the prescriber, coach or therapist is not delivering much, say so and ask for someone else. Working around poor care quietly is the thing that convinces a couple this is simply as good as it gets.

A dose never revisited, or a therapist who has never worked with ADHD, sets a low ceiling. The trouble is that the ceiling gets read as the person:…

Sleep, food and movement will not cure anything, but they lengthen the fuse. Bad moments still arrive, and you handle them differently when your body is not already running on empty.

This matters more here than it sounds, because ADHD tends to wreck exactly these three and then the wreckage feeds back into the flare ups. Late…