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Low mood and hard feelings
Feelings are information before they are problems. The practices here are about naming what you feel accurately, sitting with what will not move yet, and acting on what matters to you even on the days nothing feels like anything.
What works for this
Behavioural activation
The strongest self help evidence in this whole field says the way out of a flat heavy state is through what you do, not through what you think. You act first and the feeling follows, which is the opposite of what the state tells you.
One move, today
Choose one small thing you used to do and do it today without waiting to feel like it. Ten minutes is enough. Waiting to feel like it is the trap.
What matches
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You do not need a long list of feeling words. Half a dozen you can actually reach for under pressure will do more than forty you have to look up.
Angry, sad, afraid, ashamed, surprised, glad is enough to start with, and most hard moments are some mixture of the first four. The aim is not to…
The blockade is partial. Serotonin is not trapped in there forever: enzymes still break it down and the transporters that are not blocked carry on working.
That matters for accuracy and it matters for reassurance, because people do picture something flooding and stuck. It also explains why serotonin…
When someone says they react badly to normal doses of almost everything, take it as information about their body rather than as a personality trait.
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Whether a medicine works can turn on something as ordinary as taking it with food or moving it to bedtime.
Vilazodone is the clear case. On an empty stomach a good deal less of it is absorbed, and the nausea it can cause is easier to sit with overnight…
The same medicine can be dangerous given one way and safe given another. Slow release is not a marketing word.
Bupropion was pulled from the market over seizures and came back once a slow release form existed, because what drove the risk was the sharp peak…
Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?
The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.
At the end of a stretch of thinking like this, ask yourself plainly what you believe about yourself now, and how that differs from an hour ago.
Shifts that go unnamed tend to have evaporated by the evening. Saying the new version aloud, or writing a single sentence of it, turns it into…
Say it plainly: my anger is allowed here. It is a healthy feeling and it is usually the thing telling me where a line should go.
For anyone who learned that their anger made them dangerous or unlovable, it now arrives with shame attached, and the shame is what turns it into…