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Naming your presence is a small gift that removes the guesswork of whether you are reachable.
Kindness in word and manner to those closest was central to the Prophet ﷺ's character. Telling someone plainly that you are here is a small kindness of clarity.
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وَلَا تَقۡرَبُواْ مَالَ ٱلۡيَتِيمِ إِلَّا بِٱلَّتِي هِيَ أَحۡسَنُ حَتَّىٰ يَبۡلُغَ أَشُدَّهُۥۚ وَأَوۡفُواْ بِٱلۡعَهۡدِۖ إِنَّ ٱلۡعَهۡدَ كَانَ مَسۡـُٔولࣰ ا
Do not go near the orphan’s property, except with the best [intentions], until he reaches the age of maturity. Honour your pledges: you will be questioned about your pledges
Qur’an 17:34read it in the library
Anas narrated:that "I served the Prophet for ten years. He never said Uff and never blamed me by saying: 'Why did you do so' or why did you not do so?' And the Messenger Of Allah had the best character among all of the people. I never touched Khazz nor silk, nor anything softer than the hand of the Messenger of Allah, nor have I smelled musk, or a fragrance sweeter than the sweat of the Messenger of Allah
Jami' at-Tirmidhi 2015graded sound, albanithe Arabic and its grading
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
People stop reaching for a partner who feels unreachable. Naming your presence, that you are here and for how long, removes the guesswork and makes it safe to come close.
Reis, H. (2004). Perceived partner responsiveness as an organizing construct in the study of intimacy and closeness. Interdisciplinary research on close relationships: The case for integration.
PPR as the active ingredient common to healthy relationships.
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Clear availability lets a partner feel safe to reach for you.
Where this sits: Gottman method, Turn Toward; Rituals of Connection.