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Working out what someone meant by hurting another person is a conversation for the person who did it. Said to the one who was harmed, they were not really trying to hurt you lands as being talked out of your own experience.
Anyone who has been on the receiving end of violence has usually spent a long time being told it was not what it was. Even a kindly meant explanation…
When somebody's anger is filling the room, the bravest sentence available is usually the plainest one: you are frightening me right now.
It gives them a piece of information they almost never have, which is what they are actually doing to the person in front of them. It also puts…
If someone stands up mid argument, stay where you are. Rising with them turns a conversation into a stand off.
Therapists who sit with couples notice that the person on their feet usually sits back down within a minute or two when nobody gets up to meet them.…
In a hostile exchange, try a slow hmm instead of a reply. It sounds like someone thinking, and it puts a long out breath in the way of whatever you were about to say.
The sound we make when we are unsure is already in everyone's repertoire, and it reads as puzzlement rather than as a threat, so the other person has…
There is more about anger than the practices: the anger area has the themes and the courses too.