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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
After a fight cools today, say the reconnecting thing: we are still okay.
The fight can leave a quiet fear. Naming that you are still solid puts it to rest.
Make one repair attempt in the middle of a disagreement: a softer word, a small joke, a hand.
The couples who last are not those who never fight, but those who reach for each other mid-fight.
When you process a fight, share how you felt, gently, without yet saying why.
Name the feeling, aloud, and leave the case for later. Do not comment on your partner's feelings.
Describe your own reality with I heard you say, not you said. Leave room to be corrected.
Report only what you saw, heard, and felt, like a reporter, not what you think they meant.
End by each naming one thing you can do differently next time, and be agreeable to your partner's idea.
One concrete plan each, offered and accepted, turns a fight into something you both learn from.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Own your share of the fight, even a small part. Say what set you up and what you regret.
I was stressed, I was short, I did not listen. Taking responsibility is the fastest road to repair.