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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Raise the complaint without the words always or never.
One specific moment can be repaired; a sweeping verdict on their character cannot.
Notice the tone you use with them that you would never use with a guest.
The people closest to us too often receive our least careful manners; this gently reverses that.
Put the reminder where you will physically see it: the keys on the bag, the pills by the kettle.
Do not trust future you to remember. Build the cue into the world so the world reminds you.
Empty every open task from your head onto one list. Trust the list, not your memory.
A mind full of remembering has no room for doing. Park it all somewhere you trust, then work.
Rest a hand on your forehead for a second and ask where your attention is actually pointing right now. Not where it ought to be, just where it is.
Attention drifts quietly, so twenty minutes can go without you ever deciding anything. A small physical gesture gives the question something to hook…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Everybody finds unrewarding tasks harder to start. If yours seem to cost several times what other people pay, that is a real difference in how your brain handles reward, not a flaw in your character.
It shows up worst on the jobs with nothing built into them: the form, the receipts, the email you have already read four times. Knowing the cost is…