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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
What you are proudest of will tell you where you are most easily wounded. The two grow on the same root.
Write down two or three things you would hate to be thought about you, then look at where they meet your ordinary week. Who is likely to imply it, in…
Go to the gym without the getting ready. No mirror check, no fixing your hair, just train and come home.
This works because it lands exactly where many people quietly keep their worth, and because the real consequences are nil. Nobody there is thinking…
Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?
The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.
Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.
They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.
Some thoughts you could defend all day, and debating whether they are true only gives them more of your time. Try a different question: is this thought kind to me, and does it take me anywhere I want to go?
This one earns its place when you have already proved the case to yourself and feel worse for having done it. You are not conceding the thought is…
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