Practices

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Fast, strong emotion is part of ADHD rather than a separate fault of character. It was in the original description, dropped for decades, and is being written back in.

This matters practically. Adults who react hard and settle quickly are often given a mood or personality diagnosis instead, and the plan that follows…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 50:16One line of research

Often the feeling fits the situation perfectly and the size of it does not. You were right to be annoyed. The ten out of ten is the part that caused the trouble.

This is a useful thing to say to yourself afterwards, because it stops you throwing out your own read of what happened. Your sense that it was unfair…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 17:83One line of research

The intensity that makes you exhausting on a bad day is the same intensity that makes you good company. Enthusiasm and impulsiveness run off one engine.

Worth saying, because a conversation about emotional control can easily become a list of everything wrong with you. The aim is not a flatter version…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 91:8One line of research

Self-restraint runs on a supply that stress uses up. In a week when everything is late and nothing has been slept on, you will react to things you would normally let go.

That is worth knowing because it changes what you work on. Instead of trying to be more patient at the moment of provocation, look at what is quietly…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 20:25One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Shame and stigma

Making it stick

Breathing

Structure and routine

Treatment and medication

What worry does

Feeling from the inside

Tolerate distress

Being seen and judged

What you are actually defending

Remembering to do it

Growing empathy

When you use something to cope

Reading, numbers and learning differences

Breaking the worry loop

Answering bids

Righteous anger and perfectionism

Obsessions and compulsions

Fondness and admiration

Self-compassion

Emotions as signals

Question the thought

Facing it a step at a time

Shame

Knowing your partner

Use your strengths

Anger, alcohol and the body

Posture and how you carry yourself

Repair after rupture

Shared spiritual life

Gratitude

When anger turns to harm

Meaning after harm

Letting it out safely

When you go numb

Living with uncertainty

Calm the body

Safety and grounding

Notice the pattern and flex

Name what you feel

Act on your values

Let the wave come

Your worth is not conditional

Your window of tolerance

Rituals of connection

Get it out of your head

Find meaning

Face it gently

Care for yourself in loss

Listening and understanding

Validate yourself and others

Certain situations take you apart every single time. The reunion, that one relative, the friend who makes remarks. You are allowed to simply not go.

This is not cowardice, it is arranging your life around what you already know about yourself. Much the same logic as not keeping the biscuits in the…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 6:68One line of research

Some of what you believe about yourself is not a distortion. Things really did go wrong, often for years. What can be argued with is the conclusion you drew from them, that this is simply what you are.

Try separating the record from the verdict. The record might be missed deadlines, jobs that ended badly, friendships that faded. The verdict is 'so I…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 39:53One line of research

A reward that is far off has almost no weight in ADHD. Tying the task to something you actually care about gives you a reason that does not depend on the payoff arriving soon.

So instead of 'I should file these', try 'I want to be someone my family can rely on, and this is part of that'. The other half of this approach is…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 12:86One line of research

Fear tends to make its case as caution. Try not to let it quietly shrink what you are willing to attempt, because the shrinking rarely stops on its own.

If you have been criticised often enough, staying out of things stops feeling like a choice and starts feeling like plain good sense. The way back is…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 3:139One line of research

Worry does two things at once. It makes the problem bigger than it is and it makes you smaller than you are. The second half is the one that usually goes unchallenged.

After years of being told you get things wrong, a low estimate of yourself does not feel like a distortion, it feels like the evidence. So argue with…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 2:286One line of research

Sometimes the answer is not a better system. It is doing less, including giving up something you love, because what it costs you has stopped being affordable.

Scouts on a Tuesday, the second job, the committee. Losing one of these is a real loss and it is worth grieving rather than pretending you never…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 2:286One line of research

When you cannot skip it, shorten it. Come for the meal and skip the drinks afterwards. Two hours of you at your best is worth more to everyone than five hours ending badly.

Decide the leaving time before you arrive and say it out loud on the way in, so that it is a plan rather than a walkout. Booking something afterwards…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 25:63One line of research

Connection does not have to be human. A dog will not judge how your week went, and it will get you out of the door twice a day whether you feel like it or not.

If people currently feel exhausting or risky, an animal is often the easiest place to begin. Part of the good is the company and part of it is the…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 48:4One line of research

You can be connected to a thing as well as to a person. A cause, a project, something you are making. On the days people feel like too much, it is still there.

This works best when it asks something of you regularly: a rehearsal, a shift, a chapter a week. The obligation is the useful part, more than the…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 7:199One line of research

If you tell people that company is part of their treatment, it is worth noticing whether it is part of yours. Sitting in a training room with colleagues is the same medicine, taken by you.

There is a quiet loss of credibility in prescribing connection from a life that has none in it. It also flattens something that ought to be flat. You…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 25:63One line of research

There is a difference between being calm because your partner manages you and being able to steady yourself. The first works right up until the person is not there.

Plenty of adults with ADHD have got by on outside regulation without ever noticing it: a spouse who makes the difficult phone calls, a deadline that…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 16:127One line of research

If you are permanently behind, short of sleep and scrambling, that is not the backdrop to your short fuse. A good deal of the time it is the cause of it.

This is what makes the dull organisational work worth doing, because it buys you something you actually want. A morning that is not a panic leaves…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 94:1One line of research

Sleep, food and moving your body will not cure ADHD, and they do change how much of yourself you have available. Aim for good enough here rather than excellent.

The gain shows up in the margin more than in the symptoms. Rested, you have a bit of room before you snap. Short of sleep, you arrive at the evening…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 8:11One line of research

You cannot ask anyone to work harder on your difficulty than you are working on it yourself. That is the condition attached to every adjustment you ask for.

It is what keeps help from curdling into supervision. If your partner is holding the calendar, softening the tone and steering round your worst…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 16:127One line of research