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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Under threat your thinking narrows to two boxes: with me or against me, safe or dangerous. It is fast and crude, and you can catch it happening.
The giveaway words are always, never, everyone, typical, exactly like last time. Hearing yourself use them is a sign of the narrowing rather than a…
Most anger episodes are over within minutes, which is no comfort at all. Nearly everything irreversible happens in the first few seconds.
The punch, the sentence you cannot take back, the resignation, the message sent. The threat reading is finished in about half a second while the part…
Listen for the shoulds. When anger is writing the sentence the words go absolute: always, never, obviously, and a great deal of no.
Alongside that, the greys vanish and everything feels unusually clear. That clarity is convincing and it is the least trustworthy part of the whole…
Anger shown early sometimes stops things going further. A clear no at the start can prevent the whole conversation that would have ended much worse.
Plenty of people learned this the hard way and they are not wrong: visible anger draws a line, and lines get respected. What is worth adding is the…
Part of what makes anger attractive is how simple it makes everything. Working out who was right and what to do next is slow and uncertain, and anger hands you an answer straight away.
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Escalating is genuinely easier than resolving, which is why it wins so often when you are tired. Seen that way it is not a flaw in your character but…