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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
You cannot ask for something you cannot feel the want of. Before working out how to say it, spend a minute finding what you actually need.
This is why advice to communicate better so often goes nowhere. The words come out tidy and land as nothing, because there was no felt need inside…
Ask what the feeling is trying to do for you. Anger clears an obstacle, fear gets you out, sadness calls for comfort, shame hides you from being seen.
Once a feeling has a job it stops being a defect you have to apologise for. That matters, because the ones we treat as shameful are precisely the…
Often nothing is buried. The pieces are all there, they have simply never been put next to each other.
This hurts but I do not know why usually means the event, the feeling in the body and the meaning are being held separately. So join them up out…
When someone pours out a lot at once, catch the two or three words carrying the weight and give those back to them, in order.
You said you felt cold in your own house, and like a nuisance. Nothing added, nothing solved. It sounds almost too simple, and it does the thing a…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Let what they say land in you before you answer. The word that catches somewhere in your own chest is usually the live one.
Cold. Empty. A nuisance. Take each one for a second rather than sailing past it to the reply. Then give back the one that carried the charge, and you…