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Fight and flight have been hyphenated together for a reason. It is one system with two exits, and which exit you take depends on how you rate yourself against whatever is in front of you.
Which means the fighting is not a fixed feature of your character. Change your sense of what you can handle and the branch changes with it. In…
A kinder explanation of the behaviour does not replace the accurate name for it. Both belong on the page.
Understanding anger as fear changes how you approach somebody and what you try. It does not change what the problem is called, what gets written…
When somebody manages a partner through anger, it is worth asking what the control is guarding. Very often the answer is a fear of being left.
Telling someone that nobody else would have them is that fear turned into a weapon, and it usually arrives when the person feels furthest away.…
When anger turns up, in you or in front of you, two questions do most of the work: what is the fear underneath this, and what would make that fear bearable without the anger?
The first question slows everything down, because a fear is usually easier to name than to defend. The second stops you at insight: if the fear is of…
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Some of what teaches you most arrives rudely, from people you would not have chosen, at a time you did not pick. A provocation is often that kind of lesson.
This is not about being grateful to somebody who treated you badly. It is about what you do with the information afterwards. An ugly encounter can…