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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Belonging to the group does nothing. Going does. Having a friend does nothing either, unless you see them.
So count the actual events. How many times this week did you sit with someone, not message them. A number you can check beats a resolution to be more…
Fear tends to make its case as caution. Try not to let it quietly shrink what you are willing to attempt, because the shrinking rarely stops on its own.
If you have been criticised often enough, staying out of things stops feeling like a choice and starts feeling like plain good sense. The way back is…
Worry does two things at once. It makes the problem bigger than it is and it makes you smaller than you are. The second half is the one that usually goes unchallenged.
After years of being told you get things wrong, a low estimate of yourself does not feel like a distortion, it feels like the evidence. So argue with…
Instead of stopping the worry, follow it all the way to the end. And then what happens. And then what. At each step, ask whether you could bear that.
Most catastrophes stop being catastrophes somewhere along the chain, and the place where you say no, I could not bear that, is the useful discovery.…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
When someone has gone flat, the question is not what they ought to be doing. It is what still has any life in it for them, however small or unimpressive, and then how to get more of that.
Activities handed out from the outside do not lift much. Someone who brightens talking about their car, or a cousin, or a game has just given you the…