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While you hum, put your attention on the tickle in your nose and lips. There is not much room left for the argument once you are following that.
Two things happen in the same breath. The exhale stretches out, which settles the body, and the buzzing gives your attention somewhere plain to sit,…
In a hostile exchange, try a slow hmm instead of a reply. It sounds like someone thinking, and it puts a long out breath in the way of whatever you were about to say.
The sound we make when we are unsure is already in everyone's repertoire, and it reads as puzzlement rather than as a threat, so the other person has…
Better to hum like a bee than to sting like one. Silly, and that is why it will still be there when you need it.
Techniques you can only recall when calm are not much use, since the moment they are needed is the moment your thinking goes. A short phrase that…
Take slow sips of water. You have to hold your breath for a moment to swallow, so your breathing slows down without you having to manage it.
This is why a glass of water helps more than it has any right to. Nobody has to tell you how to drink, and the slowing happens as a side effect of…
While you drink, follow the cold going down the back of your throat. It turns a sip into half a minute of attention resting somewhere other than the argument.
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Telling yourself to observe your thoughts without judging them is a lot to ask mid conflict. Following a cold sensation is not. There is a real thing…