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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Stay a beginner on purpose. If you are still learning, being corrected costs you nothing, because you never claimed to be finished.
Notice how much anger is really the defence of a position: I already know this, you are treating me like a fool. Put the position down and most of…
Treat a flare-up as a reading rather than a failure. It is telling you where something is sore.
Instead of the usual round of apology and self-disgust, get curious. What exactly set it off, what did it seem to put at risk, why that today and not…
Fear explains a great deal of anger, but not all of it. Sometimes you are simply blocked from something you wanted and nothing is threatening you at all.
Plain frustration counts. So does anger that has become a habit, or one that keeps going because it gets results. If you go looking for a fear and…
Ask plainly: name the facts, say how you feel, say what you want, in a few clear sentences.
Drop the hinting. State the situation, your feeling, and the request. Clear is kind.
When a young person will not go in, social fear is the most common thing underneath. Start there, before anyone reaches for words like lazy or defiant.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Ask about the parts of the day with other people in them: the corridor between lessons, the dining hall, being called on, changing for sport, walking…