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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
After a fight has cooled, revisit it once without blame, each saying how it felt.
Not who was right. How it felt for me, how it felt for you, and what we each needed.
On the fight you keep having, stop trying to win it and ask what it means to them underneath.
What are you hoping for, or afraid of, in this. Then only listen for the dream beneath.
Before you argue your side, say their side back so well that they feel understood.
Summarize what they mean until they say yes, that is it. Then, and only then, your turn.
Talk first, move second. Ending a hard conversation with something physical gives the body a route back down.
This works for a therapy group and it works for an evening at home. Say the difficult thing, then walk, stretch, wash up, anything that puts you back…
After a betrayal, heal by talking the injury through together, fully, rather than skipping past it in silence.
Couples who avoid the subject drift apart; those who talk it through, honestly and thoroughly, are the ones who make it.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.