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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Offer your spouse one clear reassurance today: I am here, we are okay.
When they wobble, say the steadying thing plainly rather than assuming they know.
After a fight cools today, say the reconnecting thing: we are still okay.
The fight can leave a quiet fear. Naming that you are still solid puts it to rest.
Make one repair attempt in the middle of a disagreement: a softer word, a small joke, a hand.
The couples who last are not those who never fight, but those who reach for each other mid-fight.
When you process a fight, share how you felt, gently, without yet saying why.
Name the feeling, aloud, and leave the case for later. Do not comment on your partner's feelings.
Describe your own reality with I heard you say, not you said. Leave room to be corrected.
Report only what you saw, heard, and felt, like a reporter, not what you think they meant.
End by each naming one thing you can do differently next time, and be agreeable to your partner's idea.
There is more about your marriage than the practices: the your marriage area has the themes and the courses too.
One concrete plan each, offered and accepted, turns a fight into something you both learn from.