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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Ask your spouse what is weighing on them this week, and remember the answer.
Not how was your day. What is heavy right now. Then carry a corner of it in your mind.
Notice one way your spouse has changed lately, and let your picture of them catch up.
People keep becoming someone new. Ask about the new thing rather than assuming the old.
Learn the one part of your spouse's day that drains them most, and lighten it if you can.
The commute, the boss, the bedtime hour. Know the pinch point, then ease it by a little.
Keep in mind one small thing that matters to your spouse, and act on it unprompted.
The tea they like, the worry they mentioned, the date they dread. Remember, then show it.
Do not win in a way that crushes your partner's dream. Aim for a marriage where you support each other's dreams.
Being right is worthless if it flattens the person you love. Look for how both dreams can be honored.
There is more about your marriage than the practices: the your marriage area has the themes and the courses too.
When your partner shares the dream behind their stance, make it safe: listen like a friend, suspend judgment, do not solve.
Your only job is to hear it and understand, not to fix it or judge it. Ask gentle questions and let them unfold.