Practices

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Anger pulls your attention towards whatever provoked it, the way a vacuum cleaner pulls at a curtain. Naming it that way makes it something happening to you rather than something wrong with you.

Rumination is an accurate word and a heavy one, and people who already feel judged tend to close up when it appears. A picture does the same job…

A minuteCool the body firstMindfulnessQur’an 89:27One line of research

Put four dots on a page, one at a time, and by the fourth you will see a square. Now try to point at the square. Your mind supplied it in under a second and never asked you first.

Keep the paper. It is a small undeniable demonstration that you make patterns as much as you find them. The next time you are certain what somebody…

A minuteEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 31:34One line of research

Ask the question twice. What do you see, and what else do you see. What do you think, and what else do you think. The second one does all the work.

The second question takes for granted that another answer exists, so instead of defending the first you go looking. Used on yourself it works just as…

A minuteEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 10:24One line of research

Light behaves like a particle in one experiment and like a wave in another, and physicists live with both. That is a good picture for two accounts of one event, and a picture is all it is.

Reaching for a big idea from physics can settle the room while proving nothing at all. Use it the way you would use a photograph: helpful for seeing,…

A minuteEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 3:190

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Not knowing what to make of something does not have to be an emergency. See if you can find it interesting instead, even for a moment.

Most of us treat confusion as a gap to be closed fast, and anger is one of the quickest ways to close it: decide they meant it, decide what it says…

A minuteEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 31:34One line of research

Try putting a qualifier on the front of your strongest claims. In some ways this is true. In some ways it is not. In some ways I cannot tell from here.

Jain thinkers built a whole grammar out of that, seven careful ways of stating a thing, precisely so assertion stayed honest. Used well, a qualifier…

A minuteEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 65:3One line of research

Before inviting anyone to turn attention to their body, ask first. How do you feel about trying this now, and would you like to?

The asking is part of the practice, not the preamble to it. Someone whose body was once not theirs to control needs the choice handed back in small…

A minuteFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 6:125One line of research

A long body practice is a teaching version. In real life, take one small piece: just the feet, just the hands, just a minute of noticing.

Long stretches of inward attention can tip into flooding or into drifting off, and neither leaves you better than you started. A minute done often…

A minuteFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 26:13One line of research

Reaching for your water at dinner is a chance to practise. Stop your hand for a second, notice that you want it, then go ahead and drink.

No cushion is involved, no mantra, nothing to schedule. The point is to rehearse the shape of the thing many times a day at almost no cost: impulse,…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 33:41One line of research

You are practising the pause, not giving anything up. Once you have paused, go ahead and drink the water.

This gets misheard quickly and turns into one more rule about denying yourself, which most people rebel against inside a week. The target is the…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 17:19One line of research

Nobody sees the times you did not say the cutting thing, including you a week later. Put them somewhere you can look at: one sticky note on the wall for each.

Memory is unfair about this. The single evening you lost your temper stays vivid while thirty quiet successes disappear, and then it feels as though…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 53:40One line of research

If the word mindfulness makes you wince, leave the word out. Paying attention to your breath, or to the sounds in the room, is the whole of it.

A lot of people turn the practice down before trying it, because the label sounds like it belongs to somebody else's religion or somebody else's sort…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 29:69One line of research

One or two minutes every day will do more for you than forty minutes once a week. The long sit sounds serious and is mostly a good way to end up dreading it.

Set the price so low that skipping it would be odd: a minute, at a moment you already have. The aim is that it happens again tomorrow, not that it…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 33:41One line of research

Treat it like brushing your teeth rather than like meditating. Nobody is good at brushing their teeth, and nobody skips it because last night's went badly.

The hygiene framing takes the achievement out of it, and achievement is where perfectionists quit. Put it next to something already automatic: after…

A minuteMaking it stickMindfulnessQur’an 16:96One line of research

Before you start a practice that needs a pen and paper, have the pen and paper. It sounds too small to matter and it is the difference between doing the exercise and daydreaming about it.

The physical object is what turns something happening inside you into something you can count. If you are doing this with someone over a screen, ask…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 20:130One line of research

What you are doing when you sit on the bank has a name. Researchers call it metacognitive distancing, and it has been studied for decades.

Knowing the name matters more than it should. Plenty of people, and especially people who were sent to get help rather than choosing it, quietly file…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 8:29One line of research

The river is a way of talking, not a scene to imagine. You are not trying to see water, you are looking inward and noticing what turns up.

This is the most common way the practice goes wrong. People build a lovely picture of a stream, get bored of it, and decide the exercise does nothing…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 7:201One line of research

If the thought arrives that this is going too fast and you cannot keep up, that thought gets a dot like everything else. There is no version of this you can fail.

Fast minds are common and they are not a disqualification. When too much is going past to mark, mark that. The exercise is not a race against your…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 2:45One line of research

There is no accuracy to aim for here and nothing to beat. Every dot means you got back to the bank, and that is the entire scoring system.

People who are hard on themselves will turn anything into a test, and a test is the one thing that will wreck this. You are not aiming for a tidy…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 2:268One line of research

If a river on a summer afternoon does nothing for you, use something plainer. Counting the traffic from a porch, or standing outside a shop counting how many people walk past, does the same job.

Metaphors are personal and there is no prize for liking the poetic one. Some people take to it straight away when it is a road and a stopwatch…

A minuteThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 25:63One line of research