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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Do one small, slightly ridiculous thing together.
A shared bit of play refreshes a couple more than another serious conversation can.
Someone who will tell you the part that was not good is someone whose 'that was fine' you can believe. That is what settles the doubt, not reassurance.
Blanket praise carries no information, so it slides off and the doubt is back within the hour. If you tend to worry about how you came across, ask…
For a compromise, name your one true core need, then be genuinely flexible on everything around it.
Separate the small inflexible core from the wide flexible area. Guard the core, give on the rest.
For the item that never gets done, make an actual decision: cross it off, or find a way to genuinely want it. Leaving it sitting there is the only option that costs you every single day.
Taking it on often works through a person rather than through the task. You may not care about the paperwork, but you care about whoever is waiting…
When you agree to something, agree who follows up. Do you tell them if it slips, or do they check in with you?
Most of the hurt around late work comes from nobody having said. You assume they will ask, they assume you will speak up, and the silence in between…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.