Practices

If your version of this is fog, slowness and drifting off rather than restlessness, you are not a half case. Researchers are still arguing about whether that pattern is a subtype or something of its own.

The quiet presentation gets noticed late, because it disturbs nobody. It seems to sit alongside a different set of difficulties too, more inward than…

The feeling that everyone else was handed a manual on how to be with people has a plain explanation. Most social rules are picked up by watching, and watching steadily is the hard part for you.

So the gaps are real rather than imagined, and they are gaps in information, not in worth. That is oddly good news, because information can be taught…

By the time somebody comes for an assessment, the poor opinion of themselves is usually decades old. Assume it is there even when the person in front of you is visibly doing well.

It rarely arrives as a complaint. It shows up as apologising for taking up your time, as brushing off achievements, as a joke about being useless…

The famous ADHD success stories are real and they are also the exception. The commoner story, for someone whose difficulty was never identified, is quietly dropping out of things and disappearing.

Both halves need saying. Strengths talk that only features the founder who made millions can turn an ordinary struggling week into a personal failure…

Everyone is late sometimes and everyone gets forgiven for it. The catch is that the ordinary allowance runs on how often rather than how badly, and yours tends to be spent early in the month.

This is why behaviour people shrugged at last year gets a sharp response now, without anything about you having changed. Worth knowing, because the…

With children, acting a situation out teaches far more than talking about it. Play the scene, swap roles, get it wrong, do it again.

Explaining social rules to a child who missed them leans on the same steady attention that let them slip past in the first place. Rehearsal skips…

Achievement does not cancel an old belief that you are a failure. People reach the very thing they were sure would fix it, feel nothing change, and quietly conclude that the problem must be them after all.

The belief was not built out of results, so results do not dismantle it. Anything good gets reattributed on the way in: luck, timing, other people…

The parts of this that look like lifestyle, meaning sleep, driving, drinking, appointments that get missed, are the parts carrying the most risk across a lifetime. They are also the most changeable parts.

You may have met a striking figure quoted about untreated ADHD and years of life lost. Take the point underneath rather than the number: risk from…

Getting your ordinary life a bit calmer is worth doing for its own sake. More sleep, a little more structure, food that is not all improvised. Not perfect, just good enough to work with.

It will not give you more capacity than you have. What it does is let you use more of what you already have, more of the time, which is usually the…

Whatever you estimate, add to it. Fifteen minutes is the figure you get at midnight with empty roads; at midday the same trip takes twenty five.

Do not try to estimate better, since accurate estimating is the thing that is hard. Use a rule you can apply without judgement instead: take your…

When you book something, put everything into the entry there and then: the address, the phone number, what you have to bring. You will never have that information more easily to hand than at the moment of booking.

The alternative is standing on the pavement at ten to one, searching for which branch it was, with the insurance card at home. Booking is already a…

The benefit comes from how often you touch it. Writing something in is a rehearsal, looking it up is a reminder, and by the time the day arrives you have met it so many times that nothing takes you by surprise.

Which is why a scruffy system used constantly beats an elegant one opened weekly. Give yourself a couple of fixed moments to look, first thing and…

A three o'clock appointment half an hour away is a half past two appointment. Put the true start time in and let the calendar hold it, rather than asking yourself to work it out on the day.

Lateness usually comes from anchoring on the time printed on the letter and treating the journey as though it cost nothing. Writing the leaving time…

A child who cannot yet catch their own drifting needs somebody close enough to catch it for them. Where they sit does a lot of that work quietly.

From nearby a teacher sees attention go before the work is lost, and can bring the child back without stopping the lesson for everyone. Proximity…

Bring a child back with the smallest signal that does the job. A tap on the desk, a hand on the shoulder, or simply standing beside them will usually be enough.

Say a child's name across a room and everyone turns to look. Do that twenty times a day and the child learns something about themselves in front of…

Get the child's eyes first, then give one instruction. The page, how much, and by when, and then stop.

An instruction thrown at a busy room never reaches the child who most needs it, so the name and the eye contact come before any content at all. Then…