Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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You already own this one. Let out a sigh of relief right now, on purpose, and notice that your body knew exactly what to do.

Most people wait for the sigh to arrive by itself at the end of a hard hour. It does not have to be the last thing that happens. Doing one…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 40:61One line of research

Anger arrives with a rush of energy that feels strong and clear, and that is a large part of why it keeps coming back. The bill turns up hours later, long after the payment.

Worth saying plainly, because people assume they lose their temper against their own interests. In the moment it works: bigger, faster, less…

Five minutesCool the body firstCoreQur’an 13:28One line of research

Your body will mobilise whether you like it or not. What happens next is trainable, and that part is genuinely yours.

After a lot of talk about how fast the alarm system is, the other half deserves saying plainly. People do learn to sit through a surge without acting…

Five minutesCool the body firstCoreQur’an 20:130One line of research

If breathing exercises have felt insulting to you in the past, it may be that they arrived too early. They tend to land once you can already feel the anger coming.

There is an order that helps. First learn to catch the surge, then to see that there is a choice inside it, then to be a little less thin skinned,…

Five minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 6:96One line of research

Look along a shelf of anger books and the advice converges: bring the body down first. Mostly what differs is the packaging, so take whichever version you will actually use.

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Remembering to do it

Breaking the worry loop

When you use something to cope

What you are actually defending

Making it stick

Cool the body first

Growing empathy

The moment before you snap

Feelings and focus

Facing it a step at a time

Righteous anger and perfectionism

Choosing your response

Self-compassion

Anger, alcohol and the body

Use your strengths

When everything feels flat

Emotions as signals

Shame

Tolerate distress

Being seen and judged

Obsessions and compulsions

When anger turns to harm

Touch and bodywork

Practising under provocation

Question the thought

Getting assessed and diagnosed

Rest and pacing

Feeling from the inside

Slow breathing, a walk, cold water, wudu, muscle release, one long breath before you answer. Arguing about which is best is usually a way of doing…

Five minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 28:73One line of research

If someone already has a practice in their life, hang the new skill on that rather than handing them something foreign.

Someone who does yoga already knows what a hand gesture is for and will not find it odd. Someone who prays already has fixed times in the day and a…

Five minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 20:14One line of research

People arrive at anger work braced for a lecture and an instruction to breathe deeply. Handing them something they did not see coming buys you their attention.

This matters most with people who did not choose to be there. If the session matches what they expected, they can sit through the whole thing without…

Five minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 30:23One line of research

Slowing the breath seems to widen the gap in which you can still see your options. It does not make the anger go away, it gives you a moment inside it.

That is the honest size of the claim. You will not think your way out of a flare by breathing, but you may notice that there is more than one thing…

Five minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 31:19One line of research

Anger numbs. If it is doing the work of a painkiller for you, it will be hard to put down while the pain underneath is still untreated.

Ask what tends to be there in the half hour before you flare: a bit of shame, feeling small, an old fear about being left. The anger often arrives to…

Twenty minutesCool the body firstCoreQur’an 94:1One line of research

Automatic is not the enemy. An out of date automatic is. The aim is to practise the calmer response until it runs on its own, the way the old one already does.

At the start it feels artificial, and it should. You are choosing deliberately what the other response does for free. Give it enough repetitions and…

LongerCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 33:42One line of research

Not feeling sleepy is not the same as not being affected. Younger drinkers often stay awake through a great deal more than their body is actually handling.

The tiredness that ends an older person's night arrives much later, so the evening runs on and the amount climbs with it. Which is why a limit has to…

A minuteWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 7:31One line of research

A tablet is not safer because of where it started out. Taken by someone it was never prescribed for, it is simply an unprescribed drug.

Borrowed stimulants get treated as harmless because a doctor's name is on the box somewhere. The dose was worked out for another person's body and…

A minuteWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 2:168One line of research

When someone tells you how much they use, take it as a floor rather than a total. Then keep that adjustment to yourself.

Under-reporting is rarely a lie. There is legal risk, there is shame, and there is genuinely losing count. So plan around a larger figure than the…

A minuteWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 12:53One line of research

If you smoked or drank during a pregnancy and have spent years holding yourself responsible for how your child turned out, you are allowed to put some of that down.

The picture is genuinely tangled. The same traits run in families, so a parent is both more likely to pass something on and more likely to have been…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:54One line of research

Repetition is what makes anything stick, and it does not check whether the thing is good for you. That is most of what addiction is.

It is the same machinery that lets somebody pick up a language or a trade, running in the part of the brain built for wanting rather than the part…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 91:8One line of research

Drink can make talking easy and still leave you with friendships that feel like nothing. Worth noticing which of those two you actually came for.

One young woman put it plainly: drinking took away the worry about what she was saying, and the people she grew close to were mostly the ones she…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 5:91One line of research

Distant health warnings move almost nobody. The cost that lands is the one showing up this month: your memory, your marks, the work you know you could be doing.

So keep it specific and keep it near. Heavy drinking in the teens and early twenties shows up in memory and in school work, which is the exact ground…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 17:26One line of research

What you tried at that age is a poor guide to what is in front of your child now. Cannabis today is far stronger than the same word used to mean.

The sentence that closes most of these conversations is I turned out fine. Try a different one: ask what it does for them, when they reach for it,…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 25:43One line of research

The fog after cannabis is not gone by morning. In younger users learning can stay dulled for several days, so Saturday night is still in the room on Wednesday.

That changes what to look at. Rather than arguing about the night itself, keep a rough note of the days that follow: what got read, what stayed in,…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 59:19One line of research

Nicotine looks like the small problem next to everything else going on, and it is the one most likely to still be here in thirty years.

Most adults who smoke started as teenagers, and the earlier the start the harder the eventual stopping tends to be. So it earns a place on the list…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 24:21One line of research