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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Counter contempt by building a steady culture of appreciation: express thanks, fondness, and respect often.
Contempt grows where appreciation is missing. Regular, sincere praise is the long-term antidote.
Do not just think a kind thought about your partner. Say it out loud, naming the trait and a real moment.
I love how gentle you were with the kids today. Spoken admiration builds a loving base; unspoken does not.
Put the reminder where you will physically see it: the keys on the bag, the pills by the kettle.
Do not trust future you to remember. Build the cue into the world so the world reminds you.
Empty every open task from your head onto one list. Trust the list, not your memory.
A mind full of remembering has no room for doing. Park it all somewhere you trust, then work.
Rest a hand on your forehead for a second and ask where your attention is actually pointing right now. Not where it ought to be, just where it is.
Attention drifts quietly, so twenty minutes can go without you ever deciding anything. A small physical gesture gives the question something to hook…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.