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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Ask your child to show you their feed and explain it to you. You are asking to be taught rather than to inspect, and from the other side those feel nothing like each other.
Something shifts when the young person is the one who knows more. They slow down, they explain who these people are, they tell you which bits are…
Ask two questions and then sit with the difference. How much time on this would you like? And how much do you think is actually good for you?
Almost nobody gives the same answer twice, and the gap between the numbers is more persuasive than anything you could have told them, because they…
Pick one series and watch it together on the same evening each week. The point is not the programme. It is that something puts the two of you in the same room on purpose.
With an older teenager or a young adult, a set night can carry a relationship through stretches when talking is hard. Some weeks you will pause it…
Fasten a time you keep missing to another person. Go up when your partner goes up. Ask a colleague to knock for you on the way to the meeting.
A person moving is much easier to notice than a number changing. Ask for it as a favour and keep it small and specific, because a vague request to be…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
When someone reminds you often enough, things do get done. But the sense of time doing the work is theirs, which is why it all collapses the moment they stop.
Worth naming out loud in a household, because the reminding costs the relationship something and never builds the missing part. A better arrangement…