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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
After a hard moment today, hold each other before you move on.
Words can wait. A held embrace after conflict settles the body and the bond.
When a fight starts, name the pattern you both fall into, not the fault in them.
We are doing the thing where I push and you go quiet. The cycle is the enemy, not you.
Say it out loud in the next argument: it is us against this pattern, not me against you.
Realign the sides. The two of you on one team, the cycle on the other.
Notice if one of you chases and one retreats, and name that gently.
The more I push, the more you pull back, and round it goes. See the loop, out loud.
If you both go silent and distant, name the freeze rather than waiting it out.
We have both gone quiet and cold. One of us has to reach first. Let it be you.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Step out of the spiral by naming it: there is our cycle again, can we start over.
The name is the exit. Calling the pattern out loud loosens its grip on you both.