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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
On a break, do not rehearse how wronged you are. Let the grievance go and let your body settle.
Thoughts like I do not have to take this keep you flooded. Turn to something calming instead.
On a stuck, recurring fight, stop trying to persuade. First explore the dream or value behind each position.
Gridlock rarely yields to argument. Set persuasion aside and get curious about what the issue means to each of you.
Before you try to persuade, summarize your partner's position back until they say yes, that is it.
No persuasion lands until your partner feels understood. Interview them, then reflect their view to their satisfaction.
After a fight has cooled, revisit it once without blame, each saying how it felt.
Not who was right. How it felt for me, how it felt for you, and what we each needed.
On the fight you keep having, stop trying to win it and ask what it means to them underneath.
What are you hoping for, or afraid of, in this. Then only listen for the dream beneath.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.