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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Nearly everyone who wants to eat better knows why and knows how, and most of them do not. Whatever is missing there is missing in your anger too.
Reasons and knowledge are the easy parts, and they are the parts that get talked about. What decides the actual moment is how strong the old pattern…
One walker keeps a small pebble in his sock on walks he would otherwise take in a daze. Every few steps it says the same thing: you are here, this is now.
A physical reminder beats an intention, because an intention needs you to remember it and a pebble does not. Anything mildly odd and continuous does…
Having the capacity to choose and actually using it are separate questions, and only the second one changes your evening. The useful work all sits in the gap between them.
Arguments about whether people are ultimately free go nowhere you can use. What you can check is how often you used the choice you had this week and…
A routine only helps you while you still mean it. Every so often, ask whether you are keeping a habit because you chose it or because you stopped noticing it.
Discipline does real work. It takes the decision out of the moment, so you are not negotiating with yourself while your pulse is up. The risk is that…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Some triggers make no sense because the memory attached to them is long gone while the alarm is still wired in. A tone of voice, a particular shirt, the smell of dinner burning.
If you find yourself furious out of all proportion, look at the features rather than the story. What did that moment sound like, look like, feel like…