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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
When it heats up today, slow everything down: your voice, your breath, your pace.
Speed is the fuel of a fight. Halve your tempo and the heat drops with it.
If you are the critical one, risk the soft feeling under the anger and ask, gently, for what you need instead of attacking.
Criticism is often a protest from someone who feels alone and unmet. Softening, letting your partner see the hurt beneath the sharpness and asking…
When you feel flooded today, name it and take a real break before you say a word.
Racing heart, tight chest, that is the signal. Step away, breathe, come back when steady.
On a break, do not rehearse how wronged you are. Let the grievance go and let your body settle.
Thoughts like I do not have to take this keep you flooded. Turn to something calming instead.
On a stuck, recurring fight, stop trying to persuade. First explore the dream or value behind each position.
Gridlock rarely yields to argument. Set persuasion aside and get curious about what the issue means to each of you.
There is more about your marriage than the practices: the your marriage area has the themes and the courses too.