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Let yourself be frightened. People who cannot stand the feeling tend to do something reckless to make it stop, and it is the recklessness that gets them hurt.
Old soldiers say the same thing about who survived: not the ones who felt nothing, but the ones who could admit they were terrified and stay careful…
When somebody's anger is filling the room, the bravest sentence available is usually the plainest one: you are frightening me right now.
It gives them a piece of information they almost never have, which is what they are actually doing to the person in front of them. It also puts…
Picture two parts of you. One is fast and jumpy and does not take arguments; the other thinks things through but needs a moment to wake up.
Under provocation the fast one is already talking, and reasoning with it goes nowhere. What works is buying the slow one time: step outside, get a…
Keep a line ready for the moment somebody tells you something you did not want to hear. Something like: I did not know that, I would have had to learn it sooner or later, and now I do.
Write your own version and learn it by heart, because nobody composes a generous thought while their face is hot. The aim is not to feel gracious. It…
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Not every threat needs answering. A knock to your pride is not a danger to your safety, and it does not require a defence.
The test is short enough to run in the moment: if I do nothing here at all, what actually happens to me? Often the honest answer is that somebody…