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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Catch your partner doing something right, and thank them for it, specifically, on the spot.
Notice the small good things and say thanks. Appreciation given often keeps goodwill flowing.
Build a habit of mind that scans your partner and your day for what to appreciate, not what to criticize.
What you look for grows. Train your eye toward their good and the relationship warms.
Say it plainly whenever you teach anything: the way I am showing you this is not the way it has to be done. Change it until it works for you.
Anyone who has failed at the standard version of something several times will not try again unless they are told clearly that adapting it is allowed.…
If talking about feelings has always felt foreign or a bit embarrassing, treat this as a once a day checklist instead. Five boxes, no discussion, nothing to perform.
Plenty of people who go blank at how are you feeling can tell you straight away whether their shoulders are tight or their breathing is shallow.…
Before you walk into a room with someone, ask what you are carrying in with you, and what you are likely to leave behind when you go.
State travels ahead of words. A hard conversation an hour ago, a bad night, a piece of news you have not dealt with: any of it will be in the room…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.