Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Set the room up so that movement is already there for the taking: somewhere to stand, something to hold, a chair that lets you shift. Then nobody has to decide in the moment whether it is allowed.

This is a change to furniture and habit, not to willpower. A standing spot for part of the day, a wobble cushion, knitting or whittling while you…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:28One line of research

Difficult things come out more easily when your hands are occupied and you are not looking straight at the other person. Walk side by side, drive somewhere, wash up together, keep the sewing going.

If you are the one listening, offer it first. Most people assume that picking something up would look rude or half interested, so they sit still and…

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If attention is the diagnosis and reading, writing or maths is still unusually hard, ask whether there is a second thing sitting underneath. The two travel together often enough that one label is rarely the whole story.

A specific difficulty with reading, written expression or number sits alongside attention problems in a large share of cases, and it needs its own…

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Support does not have to stop at eighteen. Plan for it to thin out gradually through the twenties, at a level everyone has agreed rather than one that gets argued over every month.

A workable version names three things: what is still being helped with, how much, and when you will look at it again. Every six months is usually…

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Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Grounding and settling

Shame

Breaking the worry loop

Remembering to do it

Breathing

When you use something to cope

Facing it a step at a time

Shame and stigma

When everything feels flat

Staying regulated in conflict

What worry does

Growing empathy

Repair after rupture

Righteous anger and perfectionism

Being seen and judged

When anger turns to harm

Rituals of connection

Choosing your response

Making it stick

Structure and routine

Equanimity and perspective

Use your strengths

Rebuilding trust

Anger, alcohol and the body

Practising under provocation

Knowing your partner

Obsessions and compulsions

Posture and how you carry yourself

Answering bids

Feeling from the inside

Letting it out safely

Keep the bond

Listen to the body

What you are actually defending

Question the thought

Care for yourself in loss

Living with uncertainty

Treatment and medication

Safety and grounding

Rest and pacing

Systems for daily life

ADHD skills

Qur’an 2:280

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Keeping your own prescription going is a skill like any other: when to reorder, who to ring, what to do when the pharmacy has none. Better learned before the week you need it.

Put the whole thing in one place: the name and dose, the surgery or clinic, how far ahead a repeat has to go in, what happens when you travel, who to…

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Not knowing how to do an ordinary thing, a bank transfer, a form, a phone call to book something, says nothing about your intelligence. It says nobody ever sat down and showed you.

These gaps hide well, because they embarrass people in a way that larger problems somehow do not. Someone can talk fluently about difficult ideas and…

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Whatever system you build has to survive a bad day. When feeling comes in a wave, the calendar and the checklist are the first things to go, so decide now what that hour looks like.

Write down the smallest possible version of the day: the two things that still happen, everything else forgiven until tomorrow. Have somewhere for…

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Book time on your own the way you would book anything else. Not as a reward for having finished everything, and not only once you are already frayed.

Overwhelm often comes from the sheer volume of contact rather than from the work: lectures, housemates, group chats, the phone going all evening.…

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University is one route, not the route. Saying so only helps if you can name the others, so find out what actually exists before you have the conversation.

Apprenticeships, supported employment schemes, part time study, a trade, working while doing one course at a time. In many places there are publicly…

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When something has become impossible, start far below it. Sitting in the parked car with the engine off is a real first step, and it is the one that gets somewhere.

Choose a version so small it feels slightly ridiculous, repeat it until it is dull, then add one notch. Sit in the car. Then start the engine. Then…

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Pick the place that will actually hold the person, not the one with the better name on the letterhead. Three years somewhere that fits beats one term somewhere that does not.

Ask concrete questions before anyone commits. Who notices when a student stops turning up. How are adjustments actually arranged, and by whom. How…

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If it is out of sight it is gone, so build the system around what you can see. Clothes on an open shelf and books in the drawer is a perfectly good arrangement when that is what works.

Tidy usually means hidden, which is why so much storage quietly fails. Try the opposite: hooks instead of hangers, open boxes, a clear jar, one bowl…

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If everything you do is both urgent and important, you are living in the emergency corner. It is exhausting, and the exhaustion is real even though the week looks thin from outside.

Crisis living is a place rather than a personality, which is the good news, because places can be left. Look for one emergency that keeps coming back…

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Some days fill up entirely with things that were urgent for somebody else. Practise saying not now to other people, and to the version of you that opens one more tab.

For one afternoon, write down every time you get pulled away and who did the pulling: a colleague, a notification, or you. Most people are surprised…

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Before asking for something new, find out what has already been agreed. A great many adjustments sit unused on paper because the student was never told, or the teacher was never told.

Get hold of the actual document and read it properly. Extra time, a quiet room, not being made to read aloud, notes given in advance: these are often…

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Find out how long you actually last before your mind wanders somewhere nicer, then make that your block. If the honest answer is eleven minutes, work in elevens.

Most people set twenty five minutes because a website said so, fail at it daily, and conclude they are hopeless. Time yourself honestly across a few…

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If you take medication, work out when it actually comes on and when it fades, then put the demanding work inside that window. Spending your best hours on email is a waste of something limited.

Track it for a week. What time did it start, when did the edge come off, when were you flagging. Then build the day around the answer: the thinking…

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Put small obstacles between the urge and the doing. One browser used only for work, tempting apps buried three folders down, notifications off for anything that is not an actual person you love.

None of this stops a determined person and it is not meant to. It adds four seconds, and four seconds is often enough for the urge to lose its grip.…

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Some things only happen when another person is there, even if they are doing something entirely different. Ring a friend and clean your two kitchens together with the phone on the counter.

This works for studying, tidying, paperwork and the weekly shop, because what you are borrowing is presence rather than help. Agree a start time and…

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Ask what is working and what is not, rather than whether you did well or badly. The first question you can answer honestly. The second one you will lie to yourself about.

At the end of a week, three questions. What went better than I expected. What got in the way. What is the one thing I want to change. Notice where…

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