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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Put something in before you take something out. Removing the only way a person has of coping leaves them with nothing, which is not safer.
In practice this looks like smaller steps than a promise to stop: cutting the frequency, changing what is used, agreeing to wait ten minutes and do…
Ask what the behaviour does for them, and then ask how they would like to feel instead. Both questions open more than telling them to stop ever does.
The first question maps what is being managed: numbness, rage, panic, a need to make something visible. The second gives you a goal in their words…
The most useful question about a dose is whether the person can tell. A shrug and 'I think it sort of helps a bit' usually means it is not yet doing its job.
At a dose that suits them, most people can say when it comes on, what the middle of the day feels like, and when it leaves. Vagueness points…
Half the useful health information arrives sideways. Someone says 'I am so tired' on the way into another subject, and that is an opening worth taking gently.
People rarely bring sleep or food to a session as a topic, because they do not file them as symptoms. So the tiredness, the skipped meals and the…
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