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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
If you go silent under stress, say so instead of vanishing: I need a pause, I will be back.
Stonewalling reads as contempt from the other side. A word turns a wall into a window.
When you feel the urge to defend yourself, take a small piece of responsibility instead.
You are right, I am sorry I was late; I will watch the time. A small yes lowers the heat fast.
Raise the issue as a complaint about a behavior, not an attack on their character. Skip you always and you never.
I was scared when you did not call is a complaint. You are so selfish is an attack. Aim for the first.
Open a hard topic with I feel, about what, I need. Ask for what you want, do not expect mind-reading.
I feel upset that the dishes are left out. I would appreciate the kitchen cleaned at night. Clear and kind.
When you spot a fault in your partner, look for it in yourself; when you claim a virtue, look for it in them.
This assumption of similarity keeps you humble and softens contempt in the middle of a disagreement.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.