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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
When something is genuinely alive for the person in front of you, work with that. Whatever you had planned to cover keeps until a quieter week.
Teaching over the top of live feeling does not land, and it tells the other person that your agenda outranks their week. When there is heat, follow…
It does get better, but not by waiting for time to pass. The improvement comes from the walking, and the walking is small and unremarkable.
Every rep you did today changes almost nothing you can feel, which is the honest and irritating truth of it. Progress here shows up over months and…
Skills bring the flare ups down in number and in heat. What they leave standing is the layer underneath: what you believe you are owed, and how you think people ought to behave.
That layer is slower work, closer to rebuilding a view of life than to learning a technique. What counts as fair, what can reasonably be expected of…
Anger gets fed from several places: blame, not being able to bear not knowing, losing sight of the other person, and needs you never said out loud. Each one wants a different kind of work.
So it is worth asking which of them is mostly yours. If it is blame, forgiveness is the road. If it is not knowing, the work is learning to sit with…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
The work you are doing on anger does not stay in the anger box. Learning to hold an unanswered question, or to sit with what you cannot change, turns up in worry and in low patches too.
That is quietly encouraging on the days the anger part feels slow. It also means being careful about crediting every improvement to the anger work,…