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Nights that will not settle
Four different problems with one name, a bed that learned the wrong lesson, and a night prayer that was never meant to come out of a short night.
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When everything feels flat
One person's side effect is another person's treatment. Sedation is a burden for someone who cannot get out of bed and a gift for someone who cannot get to sleep.
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When you are told it is weak faith
What depression actually is, why doing comes before feeling, and what the tradition really says about grief.
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The first year nobody prepared you for
Three different states wearing one name, a body doing what it was always going to do, and a concession the religion already gave you.
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Getting assessed and diagnosed
One man put his lamps on a timer so the room would go dark at eleven and send him to bed. It worked for a few nights. Then he simply carried on in the dark. A cue can tell you the time. It cannot make you stand up.
Course36 minutesdraft
Money worry that will not stop
Worry is a behaviour rather than a character, the loop runs both ways, and the verses about rizq do not say what the posts say they say.
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The feeling that arrives after the scroll
A measuring habit, a standard that keeps rising, and a verse that was never about your face.
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When the doubt is anxiety, not a question
Two things that look identical from outside, and only one of them is answered by an answer.
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The hour after
Shame and guilt are doing different jobs, and only one of them has an exit.
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Worry that will not switch off
A false alarm, a habit of thinking, and a religious accusation that has no text behind it.
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A loss other people cannot see
Grief for a future, with no body, no funeral and no witnesses, and a set of forwarded messages that turn out not to be sound.
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A parent who keeps hurting you
What the religion actually asks of you, what it does not, and how to hold a limit without cutting the tie.
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When home is not safe
What harm actually looks like, why it does not feel like harm from the inside, and how to reach people who do this work.
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Alone is not the same as lonely
A gap rather than a headcount, a threat filter that makes you harder to reach, and an ummah that was never automatic.
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You are not lazy
Putting it off is a way of managing a feeling, not a verdict on your character, and tawakkul was never a substitute for opening the book.
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The moment before you snap
A few seconds, a body that moves before you do, and a verse that has been read as an order to say nothing.
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Carrying a loss
Grief comes in waves and not in stages, and the tradition already gave you more room for it than you have been allowed.
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The small things that hold a marriage
Four behaviours that corrode a marriage, one skill that repairs it, and an honest account of how good the evidence for any of this really is.
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When doubt keeps coming back
Waswasa, what the law already settles, and why reassurance makes it louder.
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Is it jinn, or is it illness
Two questions that are not one question, and the cost of answering only the first.
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When worship stops feeling like anything
Fatrah, the difference between the feeling draining and the practice draining, and how to set a floor.
Course40 minutesdraft
What to do instead of shouting
Why shouting works tonight and stops working by next year, what the religion actually asks of a parent, and the one swap with evidence behind it.
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Get started
Some tasks are avoided because nobody has said what they want. Not knowing what good looks like is its own reason to keep walking past something.
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Get started
If you cannot say yes and cannot say no, look for the smaller version. Not the course, one module. Not every week, once a month.
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Getting assessed and diagnosed
A child who grew up listening for a parent's seizure learns to keep half an ear on the room, and years later that can look a great deal like distractibility. Ask what they were listening out for as a child.
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Reading, numbers and learning differences
Invent words together. Say a made up word, pull it apart into its sounds, put it back, then take one sound out and hear what is left. The nonsense is the point, because there is nothing for memory to fall back on.
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Remembering to do it
Some things can be done a day late with an apology, and others cannot: the ticket doubles, the window shuts, the form is simply gone. Sorting your obligations into those two piles tells you where the effort is worth spending.
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Structure and routine
If you are the sort who leaves at the last possible second, the entry has to hold everything you need in order to walk out of the door. Address, door code, what to bring, who to ring if you get stuck.
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Getting assessed and diagnosed
A man who could not get himself to bed kept his bedtime alarm upstairs, where his wife and baby were sleeping. Switching it off meant climbing the stairs, and leaving it meant waking them. The walk to the alarm was the thing he was trying to do anyway.
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Getting assessed and diagnosed
Check the licensing before assuming you cannot afford a good instrument. Some come with permission to photocopy once you have bought the manual.
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Reading, numbers and learning differences
When a child keeps failing at a task, try reducing what it demands of attention and memory before you increase the practice. Shorter steps, one instruction at a time, the working written down where they can see it.
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Systems for daily life
A calendar holds things that happen at a time. A list holds things that must get done but not at any particular hour. Put both in one place and you break both.
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The fear underneath anger
Being cornered is a trigger all by itself. If you want somebody to come down, hand back a little freedom: a clear way out of the room, a choice about where to sit, some say in when this gets talked about.
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The fear underneath anger
Fear explains a great deal of anger, but not all of it. Sometimes you are simply blocked from something you wanted and nothing is threatening you at all.
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What ADHD actually is
Being able to disappear into something for six hours does not cancel the diagnosis out. Getting stuck on and getting stuck off are the same switch failing in two directions.
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Food, caffeine and fuel
You cannot patent a plant, so there is little commercial reason to fund expensive trials of one. When you read that a herb has no evidence, that often means nobody paid to look rather than that somebody looked and found nothing.
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Get started
Promise yourself twenty minutes, or one podcast episode, rather than a finished result. Then the end is guaranteed however badly it goes.
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Get started
Before deciding you are avoiding something, check that you actually know what it wants. How long, in what form, by when, and what counts as finished.
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Get started
If nothing starts until the deadline is close enough to hurt, the missing piece is starting, not caring. The deadline is doing a job your own switch has not learned to do yet.
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Getting assessed and diagnosed
Ask for the old school reports every time. Some people arrive with a folder of every one they ever had, and you cannot tell in advance which people those are.