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Why do I feel nothing in prayer any more?
Feeling nothing in worship
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When worship stops feeling like anything
Fatrah, the difference between the feeling draining and the practice draining, and how to set a floor.
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Emotions as signals
I am used to it is not the same as I feel nothing. It usually means a great deal of practice at feeling nothing, and that practice costs something.
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When you go numb
When someone says they feel nothing, find out where the nothing reaches. All the time, or only towards good things, or only here, in this conversation, when criticism is in the air?
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Medication and how it works
A short acting dose lasts around four to six hours in most people, and bodies vary a great deal around that. Some clear it quickly and feel almost nothing, some clear it slowly and feel every side effect at a small dose.
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Take half a minute and see Thursday night in detail, both versions: the one where you did some of this today, and the one where you did not.
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Systems for daily life
When someone has shut down, pressure to get moving usually pushes them further in. Safety first and activity afterwards, even when the whole household is desperate for a sign of life.
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Rest and pacing
Say it, out loud if you can manage it: I am done for the day. A decision, rather than a slow guilty drift away from the desk.
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Bringing the future closer
A consequence has to cost the person whose behaviour it is, in something they actually care about. If missing the bus mildly annoys your teenager and wrecks your morning, the cost is landing on the wrong person.
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What worry does
Some people are not being lazy when they stall. They are waiting to feel sure about how it turns out, and because that feeling never arrives, nothing moves.
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Carrying a loss
Grief comes in waves and not in stages, and the tradition already gave you more room for it than you have been allowed.
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Anger, alcohol and the body
Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.
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Your sense of time
The pattern usually ends the same way. Nothing feels urgent, then the deadline lands all at once, and the child panics and produces something poor or nothing at all.
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Feeling from the inside
An alarm system can be wrong in two directions. It can scream in a safe room, and it can stay silent somewhere it should not.
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Righteous anger and perfectionism
When someone is in full flood, leaving is allowed. Getting out of the way of a person who is past listening is a skill, not a defeat.
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Grounding and settling
Slide your right hand under your left arm so it rests at the side of your chest, and lay your left hand on your right shoulder. Then just sit, and notice whatever happens between your hands.
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When you go numb
If a medicine has taken the edge off everything, including the good things, that is worth raising with whoever prescribed it. Taking the sharpness out of pain is one thing. Feeling nothing at all is not a way to live.
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When you go numb
Rather than arguing with someone who says they feel nothing, say plainly what would ordinarily hurt about it. Hearing that the person you love is disappointed in you is a hard thing to hear.
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Exercise, food and other supports
Kava can damage the liver at a high enough dose, badly enough that some countries have banned it. Herbal is not a synonym for gentle.
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Practising under provocation
Run the same moment twice. The second time, change nothing except what you do with it, and let yourself not mind what the other person might be thinking.
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Screens and attention
Ask your child to show you their feed and explain it to you. You are asking to be taught rather than to inspect, and from the other side those feel nothing like each other.
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Shame and stigma
Achievement does not cancel an old belief that you are a failure. People reach the very thing they were sure would fix it, feel nothing change, and quietly conclude that the problem must be them after all.
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Systems for daily life
There is a corner of the week that is neither urgent nor important, and it is where avoiding lives. The real cost is rarely the lost hours. It is what you end up saying to yourself afterwards.
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The moment before you snap
Your mind is judging everything all the time, quietly sorting what is safe from what is not. You cannot switch that off, and you would not want to.
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Feeling from the inside
If a few quiet minutes with your body turn up an ache or a tightness you had not noticed before, the practice has not made things worse. It has shown you something that was already there.
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Bringing the future closer
A report due Friday puts a little pressure on somebody else's Monday. For you Monday feels like nothing at all, and then Thursday evening arrives carrying the whole of it.
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There is a sort of avoidance that looks like getting things done. Sorting the drawer, clearing the inbox, any mildly useful job that is not the one you are dreading.
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Grounding and settling
When you have gone numb rather than frantic, try a long low sound on the out breath. Voo, drawn out until the breath runs out, so your lips and chest buzz with it.
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Making it stick
Pick the news channel you cannot stand and watch ten minutes of it on purpose. The only job is to notice what rises in you and let it go by.
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Moving your body
Nobody sits down at a piano and plays Mozart the first afternoon. Set the bar at this week rather than at the finished version of yourself.
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Moving your body
Classes and clubs work mostly because somebody notices when you are not there. It is the being expected, more than the workout, that gets you out of the door.
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When you use something to cope
Drink can make talking easy and still leave you with friendships that feel like nothing. Worth noticing which of those two you actually came for.
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Your nervous system
If you try to call up a good feeling and nothing arrives, you are in ordinary company. That blankness is common after a long stretch of hard years, and it is workable.
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Your sense of time
For a lot of people with ADHD there are only two times: now, and not now. A deadline on Thursday and one six months out sit in the same box until the day they suddenly become today.
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The moment before you snap
Most of us think there are two things to do with anger: hold it in or let it out. There is a third, which is to stop, stay still, and watch it without doing either.
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Making it stick
Nobody sees the times you did not say the cutting thing, including you a week later. Put them somewhere you can look at: one sticky note on the wall for each.
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Making it stick
It does get better, but not by waiting for time to pass. The improvement comes from the walking, and the walking is small and unremarkable.
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Your nervous system
If you are the person who steadies every room, ask yourself when a room last steadied you.
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Sitting exactly halfway between two options is its own kind of exhausting, and it produces nothing. If you have been weighing something for weeks, the weighing has quietly become the activity.
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Finding out what is needed is progress, not more delay. Ringing to ask which documents they want is starting the job.