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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Do one small, slightly ridiculous thing together.
A shared bit of play refreshes a couple more than another serious conversation can.
If you are the critical one, risk the soft feeling under the anger and ask, gently, for what you need instead of attacking.
Criticism is often a protest from someone who feels alone and unmet. Softening, letting your partner see the hurt beneath the sharpness and asking…
If you take a break from a fight, name when you will come back, and come back.
Give me twenty minutes, I am not leaving this. Then return, calmer, as promised.
For a compromise, name your one true core need, then be genuinely flexible on everything around it.
Separate the small inflexible core from the wide flexible area. Guard the core, give on the rest.
On a stuck, recurring fight, stop trying to persuade. First explore the dream or value behind each position.
Gridlock rarely yields to argument. Set persuasion aside and get curious about what the issue means to each of you.
There is more about your marriage than the practices: the your marriage area has the themes and the courses too.