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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
People stop telling the truth to anyone who argues with it. Being easy to be honest with is a skill, and it has to be visible from the outside.
Notice what you do in the first three seconds after hearing something you did not want to hear. The explaining, the yes but, the small correction of…
If your break turned into disappearing for the night, look at it as fear rather than as a discipline problem. Anger is often a way out of feeling afraid, and so is running.
Shame teaches badly here. Telling yourself you failed at the skill tends to produce more heat, and heat is the thing you were trying to leave behind.…
Catch the cycle one move earlier today, before it picks up speed.
The first tightening, the first sharp word. Name it there, when it is still small.
Name your own move in the dance today: I chase when I am scared, or I go quiet.
Not their part. Yours. Owning your step in the pattern is what starts to change it.
Notice the moment a fight really began, often a small hurt, and name that, not the surface.
It started when I felt dismissed, not with the dishes. Find the true first domino.
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