Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Rushing out of the door is the most reliable way to leave something behind. The hurry uses up the very attention that would have checked for the keys.

The answer is not to remember harder, it is to move the check earlier. Pack the bag the night before and leave it by the door, and give yourself a…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 21:37One line of research

People rarely stop at you are late. They move on to what sort of person is late, and then it is about respect and reliability rather than about time. You have probably taken that account on board yourself.

Naming the jump out loud helps, at home and at work: this is a difficulty with timing, here is what I am putting in place, and it is not a comment on…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:11One line of research

Set the limit while you are calm and let the device hold it. A computer that shuts itself down at half past ten is arguing with nobody, which is why it wins.

Screens, browser blockers, a plug timer on the television: pick whichever you will not immediately undo. The point is to move the decision away from…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:78One line of research

A list on the back of an envelope, made before the day starts, beats holding the day in your head. It does not have to be neat and it does not have to survive contact with the morning.

Write what has to happen and roughly in what order, and keep it where you will see it. Two things come out of that. You have made one deliberate…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:12One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Growing empathy

Breathing

Shame and stigma

Being seen and judged

Making it stick

Structure and routine

Treatment and medication

Answering bids

Feeling from the inside

What you are actually defending

Breaking the worry loop

When you use something to cope

Emotions as signals

Repair after rupture

Facing it a step at a time

Shared spiritual life

Rebuilding trust

Fondness and admiration

Affection and touch

Obsessions and compulsions

Listening and understanding

Posture and how you carry yourself

Rituals of connection

Righteous anger and perfectionism

Anger, alcohol and the body

The cost of avoiding

Living with uncertainty

Rest and pacing

When you go numb

When anger turns to harm

Letting it out safely

Notice the pattern and flex

Your worth is not conditional

Reading, numbers and learning differences

Get it out of your head

Validate yourself and others

Find meaning

Help someone grieving

Keep the bond

Face it gently

Your window of tolerance

Care for yourself in loss

People put the meeting in the diary and not the shower, the finding of the keys or the twenty minutes on the bus. The event gets planned as though standing up puts you in the room.

Give preparation and travel their own lines in the calendar, with their own start times. If the meeting is at two and it takes half an hour to get…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 65:3One line of research

Long stretches of time are where people dissolve. If a whole afternoon is unusable for you, stop trying to use it as an afternoon and cut it into pieces with edges.

Twenty five minutes on, five off, or forty and ten, or whatever suits the work. What you are after is a short enough run that you can tell from…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 84:19One line of research

If the test is on Friday and it is Monday, Friday is doing almost no work. Put something today on the end of today's revision, however small.

This is not spoiling a child. It is matching the reward to the timescale they can actually feel, which is roughly the one they are living in. Half an…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 78:11One line of research

Part of what keeps the late start going is that it has genuinely worked. You have produced something good in one long night before, and you remember it clearly.

So telling you that leaving it late is a bad plan tends to fail, because you have evidence and the other person does not. The honest version is…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 18:23One line of research

The dreaming is not the problem. It is that bills, forms and renewal dates are dull enough to stop registering at all, and those are the things that actually damage a life.

People who are managing well in every visible way still get brought down by a lapsed policy or an unopened letter from the council. Trying to care…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 78:11One line of research

If reading has always been slow and effortful, that is worth looking at in its own right. Dyslexia and ADHD turn up together far more often than chance would give, and they need different help.

Someone can do very well in a subject built on reading and still read slowly, and that is often the difficulty left over once everything else has…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:12One line of research

When someone reminds you often enough, things do get done. But the sense of time doing the work is theirs, which is why it all collapses the moment they stop.

Worth naming out loud in a household, because the reminding costs the relationship something and never builds the missing part. A better arrangement…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 103:3One line of research

Bad with time covers at least five different things: arriving late, missing deadlines, never planning ahead, always guessing the best case, and losing hours inside something absorbing. Each one has a different fix.

Write your own list and mark which ones actually apply to you. Someone who is never late but always guesses the best case needs a record of real…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 30:18One line of research

A clock only counts if you can see it without doing anything. Behind you, in a pocket, behind a lock screen: that is not a clock, that is an errand.

Walk through the places where time actually disappears for you and put something visible in each one. The bathroom, the kitchen, the desk, the room…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 2:189One line of research

When you are sure something takes ten minutes, do not argue with yourself. Write down the guess, start a timer, and look at both afterwards.

Do it for the handful of jobs that keep wrecking your mornings: the shower, the email, the tidy before guests. Keep the numbers somewhere you can…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 23:113One line of research

Write the morning out in small steps with times against them and stick it where you will pass it. Bathroom finished by quarter past, clothes on by half past, at the table by twenty to.

A single hour before you leave is far too long an interval to monitor, so you find out you are late only when you are late. Broken into six pieces,…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 20:130One line of research

If the internal clock is not there, put clocks in the room. Somewhere the child can see without turning round, a timer on the desk, one on the wall by where they work.

Think of it as a prop rather than a cure. The aim is not to train an ability into existence before the child is allowed to cope, it is to let them…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 6:96One line of research

Take the Friday deadline and walk it backwards onto the days. What happens Monday, what happens Tuesday, written down where both of you can see it.

Children with this difficulty rarely generate the sequence themselves, and asking them to is asking for the thing that is hard. So supply it, on…

Twenty minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 36:38One line of research

Walking away from a course or a job that was never going to fit can be the sensible move rather than a failure of nerve. It is also frightening, particularly when other people are paying for it.

Fit does more work here than effort does. The person who cannot survive a rigid nine to five in an open plan office may be excellent somewhere with…

LongerYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 62:10One line of research